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Extracting Promises
(advice to wives by Lady Jane)

Promises are an important aspect of relationships in general but marriage in particular. A promise is a verbal declaration in which your husband binds himself to do, or to forbear to do, a specified act. It is a declaration which gives you a right to expect or to claim the performance or forbearance of that specified act.

Husbands are naturally more attentive to their wives when they are aroused and excited. There is much you can do to maintain your husband in a state of arousal and excitement but such excitement is in anticipation of sexual satisfaction. Once that satisfaction is achieved, his attention to you will tend to fall off for a while. This is just natural.

Promises are useful because they bind your husband at one time to perform at another time. In particular, your husband may make a promise when he is horny to perform when he is not.

Your goal, then, is two-fold: First, you need to extract promises from your husband when he is most excited. Second, you need to remind him of the promises he has made and those he has broken.

The best time to extract promises is during foreplay. When your husband anticipates that sexual satisfaction is imminent, he will do or say anything. When extracting promises, directness is best. Just before allowing him to enter you, tell him what you wish of him and ask him to promise.

You can combine interrogation techniques with promise extraction to powerful effect. As one wife wrote:

He did everything I asked, but the dinner didn't taste as it was supposed to taste. After he did the dishes and gave me several orgasms (orally), I masturbated him while we had a little "talk". I asked him if he loves me. He said that he worshiped me and that he would do anything to please me. Then I asked him if he would take cooking lessons to make me very good meals. He hesitated a moment and I began to stroke his penis more intensively. He finally said: "I will take lessons to cook you meals that you deserve". It's amazing how he behaves when I'm masturbating him. He's very like a little boy; he stares at my hand like there was nothing else in the world.

Naturally, when the urgency is passed, he will tend to forget his promises. To the extent that he is a man of his word, this will be less of a problem but you should expect him to fail to keep his promises from time to time. Additionally, he may rationalize that the promise was made under duress so it is best to keep a sense of humor about these promises. Still, it is very important not to let him slide but to frequently remind him of his promises especially when he breaks them. Take such broken promises in stride and avoid nagging. Instead, the time to make an issue of broken promises is during sex.

When you are having touching his cock again, remind him of the promises he has broken and ask him to repeat his promises and to promise to keep his promises. If the breaking of promises is relatively minor and the sincerity to correct sincere, then a renewed promise should be accepted. If the breaking of promises is more serious or persistent then some remediation or penance should be required before sex. Additionally, sex may be delayed for a discussion of the broken promises. This delay might be minutes, hours, or even days according to the circumstances.

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